In case you missed it, I spent last weekend at Eagle Appreciation Days in Prairie du Chien, Wisconsin. I took a ton of photos, had a great time and ate great food.
1. Pick something you love.
2. Pick a good weekend to go.
3. Get sleep and eat well.
4. Talk to people.
5. Take your time.
Another thing I would have liked to do was go to Mass out there, but I couldn’t stay Saturday night and the only Mass was at 8 a.m. Sunday.
I usually try to schedule those things better.
1. “Jesus, I trust in you.”
2. Fill your life with people and experiences.
3. Go to Mass!
4. Avoid thinking about the break up and trying to figure out what went wrong.
5. Don’t jump back into the dating game.
I struggled with how to title this post.
It’s hard to see if a line has been crossed or not. We want our co-workers to respect us and value our opinions, but we don’t want to flirt with them. Or them with us.
Here are five signs that your relationship has crossed the line:
1. You have long talks alone with this person.
If you’re the only two people in your office or workplace, OK. But, if you hold off on having conversations until everyone else is out of the office, you may be crossing the line.
Workplace conversations are touchy. Some of them are just with your boss, some are just with your “peers.”
Some should be open for everyone.
Try to figure out which conversations are which, and don’t spend hours talking to the same person every day.
2. You get excited when you see this person’s car in the parking lot.
This is weird. Don’t change your mood because someone is at work or not. You should like your co-workers and your boss, but you shouldn’t be excited to see them at work.
You’re professionals working together. You aren’t friends visiting a frat house, excited to see a guy’s motorcycle parked outside.
3. You ask for advice from this person.
It’s OK to get advice from people, but you shouldn’t be sharing personal things with someone in a professional relationship with you.
You have girl friends and guy friends and parents to bounce relationship questions off of, not your co-workers, especially not in a one-on-one session.
If your boss is much older than you, that might be the place to go if you don’t have someone else.
Don’t solicit advice from someone who isn’t appropriate to give it. (Ever think of asking your priest instead?)
4. You text.
Don’t, please don’t text.
Don’t text. Texting is for friends. Call instead. Just call. Or send an email from your phone. Don’t text.
Texting is for friends (like I just said!). Texting language is informal, casual language and that’s not how you speak to your co-workers.
5. You don’t feel comfortable around this person.
You would think it would be the opposite, right? That you’re too comfortable? Both are true, but being uncomfortable when you really think about how the relationship is progressing is a sign.
Listen to your gut. It’s saying, don’t hang out with this guy. Don’t walk over to his car and talk.
It’s saying, keep professional relationships professional.
Don’t push those signs away. It could be your guardian angel trying to pull you away from a bad situation.
Pray about it. If you have any thought, any thought at all, that this relationship might not be professional, pray about it. Ask a priest for guidance. Talk to your boss about it.
Lately, maybe since my day off, I have just been really happy.
I can’t really limit it down to one change that I’ve made because I’ve been making a lot of changes in my life the last few weeks.
Here is what I think are the major contributors to my current high happiness levels:
1. Do something for someone else.
The key here is to do it without expecting anything back.
If you can give a gift to someone who needs it without them knowing it’s you, do it.
I recently had an opportunity to give something to someone I don’t know. I struggled with it a little bit, but I eventually did it.
I feel great! I don’t want to get into specifics about it, but I think you can do things like that, too.
Ask your neighbor if he needs someone to walk his dog tonight.
Go above and beyond for this.
Clean out your friend’s car.
Pick up your roommates socks that are in the living room.
Just do something that you wouldn’t normally do, and don’t mention it.
2. Move your body.
Go for a long, slow walk around your community.
Do some push ups.
Touch your toes.
Run up and down the stairs.
Do a few jumping jacks.
This doesn’t have to be for 15 minutes or even 10 minutes or even five minutes. Even if you just stand up and stretch your arms over your head and sit down again.
Do it. You’ll feel better.
3. Do something special for yourself.
But don’t be selfish about it.
Don’t not do something that you’re supposed to do to give yourself time for this.
Just wake up two minutes early and make a cup of coffee the way you like it. Sip a few drinks on your porch and listen to the wind rustle fall leaves.
That’s enough. If it’s something you don’t normally do, do it today. Do it in the morning. Do it after you put your kid to bed.
Don’t just sit in front of the TV. Well, you can. If you don’t normally do that.
Sometimes I think I’m relaxing in front of the TV, and really, I’m not. Instead, do a lap around the couch first and pick up your cat’s toys. Then sit down.
4. Be productive.
Don’t be busy. Straightening the dishes into stacks instead of just washing the dishes is busy work… not productivity.
Just wash them. Even if you just wash half of them, at least you did something. You’ll feel better, and there will be less work later.
Do a project from start to finish. Not enough time to clean the entire bathroom? OK, just clean the litter box then take out the garbage bag. You’ll feel better, and that’s the whole point.
If you can’t be productive, take a nap. If you’re tired, you’re not going to have energy for anything. Just take a nap.
5. Call your mom.
Do you ever feel worse after you call your mom? I guess, maybe, depending on the relationship that could be that case…
In that situation, then call a good friend that brings you up.
Just talking for a few minutes (or an hour like happens with my mom) will cheer you up.
It’ll give you energy and let you refocus.
Don’t call someone who brings you down. Whose is upset with you or will complain about something ridiculous.
Just call someone who is happy already.
And don’t bring her (or him) down with you!
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