Friday Quick Takes, on life

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I have fallen from posting on this blog again. I’m not here with this list to make any promises, either.
I just want you to know that I think about it… sometimes… and I think about posts to write… sometimes. Mostly I’m focusing on getting out of debt (student loans!) and checking off some of those things on my 28 by 28 list.

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Lent has been going OK for me. I don’t know if I’m more patient or not.
I know I got super frustrated at work earlier this week, and now the coworker that frustrated was geared to is mostly not talking to me. I said ‘God bless you’ after he sneezed yesterday and he said ‘Sure.’ OK…
I have been keeping the meat free Friday fast, but I do that all year.
I get get to Mass on Monday morning. I need to get to confession soon.

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This weekend one of my friends is hosting a ‘chat and chew’ cookie exchange. Except we’re not exchanging cookies. We’re just bringing 2 dozen to the nursing home in town and keeping 1 dozen for the party.
She’s setting me up with a guy there…which relates to my next Quick Take.

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Tonight is my second date with someone new!
We met last weekend for coffee. It was great. Besides being awkward because we were just meeting, it went great. I’ve never done anything like this before, so I’m excited.
Tonight should be great, too. At least I hope.
He’s Catholic, and when we were setting the plans for dinner, he said the restaurant has an “extensive seafood selection” or something cute. It just makes me happy that he’s serious about his faith.
I don’t know if we’re going to keep dating or what, but it’s fun to be out there.

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My car is going to the repair shop next Friday morning… $160 later I’ll have a new wheel hub bearing or something.
Also, yesterday when I was walking around my car I saw one of my tires was ridiciously low on air. I put the gage on it…. 7 PSI. I’m not joking. 7. They’re supposed to be at 30 or so. 7.
Jeez. No wonder I’ve been getting pretty poor gas mileage. I guess I need to be more diligent about checking them. The rest of the tires were in the low 20s, but 7.

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Back to the date.
I’m both nervous and excited. I have no idea what I’m doing.
Before this, I’ve just kind of “fallen into” relationships and never dated. I know that I need to take this slow… but how?
I’ve had a friend tell me to just make it a conscious decision about everything involving the guy. Meaning, don’t text him constantly, don’t think about him constantly, don’t wait for him to text me.
Basically, keep the rest of my life full of things to do.
But I’m just so excited!

— 7 —

Lastly, a skirt update.
I haven’t been doing it like I wanted to. At best, I get 2 skirts a week.
As the weather warms up, I’m going to re-dedicate myself to this “cause,” and even start looking for more skirts. With my car repair bill and other stuff coming up, I can’t afford a wardrobe overhaul right now. Soon, though.
At least when it’s summer, I won’t have to worry about matching my tights to my skirt and boots or whatever.
Speaking of boots. I think this is the summer I’m finally going to buy a pair of cowboy boots. I’ve wanted a pair for a long time. Now’s the time to do it. If the budget works out.
 

Have a great weekend!
God bless.

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28 by 28 update: pray outside an abortion clinic

March 9.

I know this review post is coming in late, but I think I needed time to think about how it went.

40 Days for Life

First of all, when I made my 28 by 28 list, I checked in with 40 Days for Life. They do awesome work with the prayer vigils, and I thought it was a good place to start.
Originally, I intended to go to Latin Mass (also on my list) before showing up for the prayer vigil, but I realized I wouldn’t make it there in time.
So I went to the Saturday vigil Mass and then showed up at 9 on Sunday morning for the prayers.
I was expecting people to be there for the hour before mine. Nope. No one was there.
And no one showed up afterwards to take over, either.
So I was there, by myself, outside this clinic. Which was closed, of course. I guess business is too slow on a Sunday morning, even for them.
On the window was a sign “40 Days of Prayer for Choice.”
Wow.
That just makes me angry and sad at the same time. The sign was sun-bleached and… I don’t even know what it was.
Wait, yes I do. It was stupid.
Read this post at Patheos about the whole idea.
I should also add that it was freezing. We’ve had this abnormal cold winter here in Wisconsin, and it was early. I think it was cloudy, so I didn’t even get a lot of sunshine.
I thought that was just though. I was in a sad, sad place.
Affiliated Medical Services in Milwaukee.
So I prayed. First a Rosary. Then a Divine Mercy Chaplet. Then another Chaplet. Then a Rosary, and I dedicated a single ‘Hail Mary’ to each of the women in my life. That was actually really beautiful. I should do that more often (think of people when I pray!).
Only a few people walked by me, and no one said anything to me. It was clear, I think, what I was doing, but who knows?
Some people don’t know… which is so hard to me to think about because it’s a huge part of my life. I think about “the cause” probably every day.
But some people aren’t “political” or into current events. I find that more and more often now. It’s sad. I mean, you’re not into current events? You don’t watch, read or listen to any sort of news source?
Yikes.

I would like to say that I walked away from the clinic after a hour a more thoughtful and prayerful person.

I don’t think that really happened. I was happy to get into my car and turn on the heat. Happy to get away from what is not the greatest neighborhood in Milwaukee.

Even though I know prayers aren’t ever wasted… I feel like I didn’t help anyone. Yet, I guess I’ll never really know if my prayers helped anyone.
I feel like my donations to Pro Life Wisconsin are better served… or if there were a group of us there, during business hours of the clinic…
I don’t know.
All I know is that I did it. It’s checked off my list. And I’m glad I did it. But next time, I’ll do it differently.
That’s for the next list.
During the past month, already, I’ve had this secondary bucket list building… by the time my birthday rolls around, I won’t have to think very hard about my 29 by 29 list.
So far, off the top of my head, I know I need to put these on the list:
1. go skiing
2. pray with a group outside an abortion clinic
3. attend a whole Brewers-Cubs series at Miller Park (that’s only 3 games, shouldn’t be a big deal, right?)
I think I have more written down somewhere…. you know how those list goes.
All the best.
Hope you’re working on your goals and dreams, too.

Skirts and being a girl

On Friday, I wore a dress and told one of my coworkers that I was thinking about doing it “all the time.”

He laughed and asked if it was a slap in the face of feminism. Yes! He’s the good Catholic that I have as my in-office role model.
Saturday, I wore pants. Sunday… I wore pants.

But I wore a skirt to Mass. If that counts.

I decided Sunday night that I was going to do a “test week” of wearing a skirt all week. I checked the weather. 23 degrees on Wednesday, supposedly.

OK. I have some fleece-lined tights. I can do this. The rest of the week is supposed to be really nice.

Well, it’s half way through Monday, and I love wearing a skirt! I feel like a girl!

This is probably not startling and amazing for some of you. Well, it is for me.

I posted about it on my Tumblr account (jaderuns), and seriously, the feedback was great! Skirts, skirts, skirts.
So I am going to be scoping sale racks and thrift stores to find more.
I don’t know what specifically started me on this test week, and I don’t know if I’ll continue it forever. I know that I have been seriously interested in MODESTY since the breakup in December.
I feel like I want to … start over with a chaste life. Modesty is a key to that.
Wearing a skirt makes me feel more modest, for sure. But I also feel feminine.
I have a weird body shape (doesn’t every woman), so pants never really fit me right, you know what I mean? They were baggy in the wrong places, tight in the wrong places… I just never felt really good in a pair of pants.
I feel that way in a skirt, and I’ve always felt that way in a skirt, so I don’t know why I haven’t made this leap before.
I’ll let you know how the rest of the week goes, and if it continues.
I had a… kind of… sort of… date on Sunday night, and I wore jeans because I wanted it to be super casual (which may have made it not a date at all). One of my friends suggested the jeans, so I went with it.
Skirts just still look dressy to me. I’m sure once I start wearing them in more casual situations, I’ll get used to it.
Any thoughts on wearing skirts all the time?

A “fresh” take on Lent

I see lists all over the place about what to give up, how to give up more, unique things to give up, funny things to give up… Those are great.

And they’ve helped me in the past.
This year, though, I really thought about what I wanted to give up as my penitence.
My first, thought, oddly was mayo. I really like mayo. Because I’m on a low-carb (meaning no-sugar) diet, I add mayo to add fat and flavor to a lot of what I eat.
I decided to not give that up because I want to stay on this diet. It works for me.
My next thought was about the heat in my car. I was actually really set on this idea.
Except… what does that do to bring me closer to God? Am I really ADDICTED to the heat in my car?
Both answers: no.
So…
I finally decided to give up…
 
THE RADIO IN MY CAR.
 
What a small simple little thing to give up, right?
False. I love the radio on. Constantly. Always. I love (hate) flipping through the stations and finding a song or a news station I like. Flipping again.
I realize now, that my ability to change the channel, and having so many choices, makes me impatient. Not just while I’m driving, though that is a big part of it, but during my whole day (life).
I’m short with people because I can’t make them do what I want immediately by pressing a button.
 
I hope this Lenten “fast” from the radio helps me build patience.
 
I’m adding… if I can make it to Church on time… the Rosary with the ladies before daily Mass whenever I go. So I’ll have to be ready a little earlier, be there a little earlier.
I used to do it, years ago. That will surely be a blessing.
 
And alms giving… I think this is always the hardest part of me.
I have so little to give, honestly. Journalists, on average, don’t make a lot of money.
But I’m going to increase what I give a little bit every week at Mass, and I’m going to try to make some meals for people.
 
I can do things if not give money.
 
Are these really “fresh” ideas? Probably not. But it’s a different take for me.
Last year, I gave up complaining, and it became a pretty big joke in the office. I don’t want that to happen this year.
 
Fasting today, for the first time in a long time… I’m eating dinner today, that’s it. Probably some tea and coffee.
I know fasting can be a great spiritual blessing, but boy… I am hungry. 🙂
 
If you’re looking for more on Lent, I suggest the USCCB.
 
God bless.